12 cliché things

12 cliché things that we already know but need to constantly remind ourselves:

1. Be yourself

I know sometimes it's so hard to be yourself. It's hard because we're afraid to be judge and rejected. But I came to think that life's too short. So be who you want to be, say what you want to say, feel what you want to feel. Laugh, cry, sing your heart out, speak your mind. Just be yourself and if people won't accept you for who you are, then it's their choice and surely it's not your fault. And yes, being yourself won't get you a lot of friends but people who loves you will accept you for who you are no matter what. Just be your genuinely authentic self anyway.

2. Love yourself a little more

Love yourself? Well, I think a little much more and it means; Making yourself happy, have some quality time with yourself, take yourself out, eat what you wanna eat, read what you wanna read, go places you wanna go, learn things you wanna learn, wear what you wanna wear, love who you wanna love. Just please yourself a little bit and be happy. Your happiness is your own responsibility, not anyone else. So don't deprive yourself on the things that's making you happy. Remember, making yourself happy is one of the first steps of loving yourself. Just be happy and love yourself.

3. Have a lot of patience

Some people kinda compare patience with time but it isn't like that. Patience is waiting without having to look at the clock. That's real patience and a lot of patience requires waiting without getting bored or being annoyed. And patience is literally the answer to everything. Confuse about something? Patience. Want something? Patience. Looking for something? Patience. Need something? Patience. Patience is the key.

4. Never give up on your dreams

Remember the day when you get to build your own dreams in your mind? That's the day when you get to truly live, the day when you finally get to know your passion and the drive for waking up to each and everyday. But yes, dreams can be hard to reach sometimes and the road might be long and not easy. But don't give up because our dreams aren't even giving up on us. And no matter how wild our dreams can be, nothing is impossible if you believe in yourself and in your dreams. Just have faith on it and it'll have faith on you.

5. Always be grateful

Gratitude changes everything. It changes little into enough, empty into plenty, nothing into something, negative into positive, and sadness into happiness. Gratitude is just like thinking there's a sunshine on a cloudy day. It is being contented with what you have but also not losing hope in all your aspirations and dreams at the same time. This is being grateful is all about.

6. Don't just be nice but be kind

Being nice isn't equivalent to being kind. Some of us used to be confuse with those words but those two are really way too different. Being nice, well everyone can be nice right? But being kind, it is heart felt and heart given. Being kind isn't pretentious and people pleasing, it is doing something with full enthusiasm, willingness, and inspiration. And you'll never know what your kindness may bring or take you, it may be a person's having a bad day and you make him/her smile and you can be an inspiration to them and everyone around you too. So just be kind and if you're not feeling it, maybe train yourself to be a little more kinder than usual.

7. No regrets just lessons learned

Sometimes life has a very funny way to annoy us. And one of those ways are making us think of our past or what we call as "mistakes". Well, everyone make mistakes. We all screw up sometimes, do stupid things, and make bad decisions too.  But come to think of it, mistakes are not made for us to just resent it and to think of it as stupid and useless but because it is made for us to learn a lesson and grow from it. That's why mistakes exist and it'll only be a good thing if we know how to turn it into something positive and it is to learn something from it. If most of us think of it that way, we'll all live a life without any regrets. After all, life's pretty short to be full of regrets. So don't just think of it as something unfortunate but learn how to make it an opportunity to make it a great life lesson.

8. Learn to forgive yourself and others

Healing takes time so does forgiving. And forgiving isn't forcing yourself to heal or to forget things instantly. Forgiving isn't like that and its not that easy for some of us, because each of us have different hearts, some of us have bigger hearts than the other. Which is why we cannot compare our hearts because we all have different healing process. And again healing do takes time and sometimes it can take ages too. But I truly believe that time can really help in mending our wounds. Just give yourself some time or maybe so much more. Sometimes ourselves has it own way of figuring things out and that one day out of the blue you'll wake up having no resentments to yourself or anyone at all. Just let yourself and time do its thing.

9. Have a little faith in life

Sometimes we get to the point that somehow, life's a little bit hopeless. Hopeless because things didn't work our way because it didn't go the way we planned it to be. And that somehow we blame ourselves sometimes because things didn't work out. But that's just so wrong, because at the first place if that thing is really for you, then it'll be meant for you. So no matter how much we try to make things work if things aren't meant for us, then it won't really work. If that's the case, I say just let life do its job. Trust life a little bit more, you'll never know how much better things life has in store for you. Just have faith in life and most especially in God.

10. Life is tough and so you are

Life is hard and life isn't simple at all. Complicated then, and even more now. Life's unfair but ironically, it's good to know that it's unfair to everyone. Sometimes, it's hard for us to deal with life. Because even just thinking about it can sometimes lead us into tears and heartache. But look how far we've come, we already survived so many challenges life had thrown to us. Sometimes it's hard to believe that we somehow overcome life. But we did, we survived before and we'll make it through until the end. And it's life's way of making us strong somehow, stronger and tougher than before. Life's tough but I guess we're tougher than life.

11. It's okay not to be okay

It's okay to be sad, it's okay to be hopeless, it's okay not to be okay sometimes. We're humans, we're vulnerable to anything around us. Sometimes, we get to feel these things without any reason at all or even if it has a reason it seems to feel wrong to some people. And that'll make you think sometimes that you're wrong to feel what you feel and that'll make you feel bad to yourself even more. But I don't think feeling what you want to feel is wrong. It's okay to feel what you want to feel because it's your feelings and it's valid. And it's not too much to feel those things. What's worst is to feel nothing at all, empty and dead inside. I guess it's much better to feel these things than to feel nothing because somehow it makes you realize that you're still alive and breathing. Probably not okay today but still living and will be better soon.

12. Growing old is growing a bigger heart too

Most of us grow up a little faster than everyone. But have you ever wonder why some people are having a lesser heart while getting older? I know things might be rough and hard to some of us. And maybe people haven't been this kind to us all this time. But it isn't enough reason for you to be like them and to have a lesser heart. Yes, it's hard and nothing ever seems to be easy in this life. So don't let your wounds make you the person you said you don't want to be. People and circumstances may broke your heart, but don't let them take away your kindness. You're much better than that. Don't be hard because people has been hard to you. Just stay kind even if people won't do the same thing. Just stay true to yourself. Just stay being genuine. And just be the self that your future self will be proud of and thank for. Just take a deep breathe for now, everything will be okay and you'll be fine soon. Just let time, your heart and soul heal itself. Lastly, just let go and let God.