If you feel depressed and lonely because you are nice, then you are being nice in the wrong way
It’s really like a slap in the face, I know. I have been through that phase before. In my first point, being nice is not equivalent to having no boundaries. It’s precisely when you have the ability to be evil to someone, to behave in a bad way, yet you didn’t choose to do so, then you are really being nice.
There’s a difference between being nice, and being weak.
It’s all about choices. It’s all about your ability to choose.
Many of the “nice” people out there are actually “weak” people - people who are unable to fight back or unable to choose how they should treat others. They use “nice” as a mask to cover up their “weakness” so that when someone “bullies” them, they can use the moral argument - “I am such a nice person yet they treat me this way, definitely it’s their problem and not mine.”
I need to admit that there ARE genuinely bad people out there. But there are also some “bad” people behaving in a bad manner because they are given the chance to do so.
So don’t give them this chance. Learn how to find value for yourself. Learn how to have the ability to choose to be nice and not be nice because you have no choice but to do so.
They are inherently different.