"So what is love?" a very common question for which people have different answers.Love is care, love is life, love is happiness, love is hurt etc. For the 19year old me love has become an illusion in which people taste the sweetness, saltness, bitterness. At the end of my teenage I got to know about love. The love which once had life has become an illusion. There is no love, there is only attraction and lust. Iam here to share few love clips in my writting.
STORY 1 :
Married to a man who is very egoistic and sadistic nearly 25 years went for her. Always she thought that her love can change her husband to a more caring person. But he never did change. He used her as a machine to deliver 2 children and a maid who cleans up the house. Love never did happen between them. She tried so hard to make it happen but it did not. She is so brittle that she breaks always. She tries a lot more to get positive but there again something bad happens. But now she killed love and maintains distance from her husband under the same roof. He never cared of her. All she could do was silently pray for her children.
STORY 2 :
A girl and a guy from different path meet. Love blooms in them at the first sight. Life was good but due to some problem they broke up and never talked to each other. After three months the guy broke the silence and asked the girl for friendship alone, so they become friends. In the same time the girl got committed with another guy who was more caring than the first guy. Though the girl got committed she could not forget her first love. So she ended up the commitment with the second guy and proposed the first guy. The first guy was on cloud mine and one week of happiness went like air. Suddenly the girl broke up with him again. So many questions hit me, " Is it because of the second guy? ; Is there any problem?" So many...... only thing I could understand was love has become a lifeless thing. The status of the first guy is the worst. His heart has been used for playing. Iam sure that he will not trust anyone again. In the case of the girl, it's age problem and she was in complete dilemma and could not take decisions. She could have taken some time to analyse her likes, but she did not. The love was killed. Now the girl and the second boy are friends but the first guy did not even deserved her friendship. So I got to know that love changes when you get better options. It cannot be stable for one person.
STORY 3 :
A gang of 10 members, 5 boys and 5 girls.....best friendship ever. From childhood they all are close to each other. A cuttest moment happened when a boy in the gang said that he have a crush on a girl in the same gang. It was 8th grade so she rejected because of fear. But too their friendship existed. All 10 attended birthday parties, marriages of any of their brother's or sister's. So much fun. Happiest and saddest moments were shared. The girl capured the beautiful moments in her heart that she spent with the guy who had a crush on her. Slowly she builded interest in him that one day she blurted it to him that she too have a crush on him. She become 20 that she decided her whole life with him. Her dreams got burnt when he said that he loves another girl. Her mind scremed" another girl?....... that's why you looked at me alone when we all 10 talk? That's why you note all my acts and smile at me? That's why you care for me more than you care for others? That's why you always nudge me drawing my attention whenever Iam around? You love a girl but you never said that to us and you acted in a way that you love me....you wanted me to feel the pain like you felt in 8th grade! Thank you so much". No words came from her mouth she could only nod her head and faked a smile in front of him. The days pass, still now she have sleepless nights crying out of pain. So love is again killed and love is used as revenge taking tool.
STORY 4 :
Marriage is so pure and so it happened between them in a grand way. After few days she was not comfortable in her husband's house. But she maintained silence. She is also bold that she talks against whenever her self respect is blamed. She got pregnant within a month then too the problems continued. Both of their families thought that this will end but then a huge pain got into everyone. Carring a 3 month baby she heard a line from her husband which no one should hear. He said to his family in front of her that " why mom you forced me to marry? I said I don't want to marry and you forced me to marry her and now here she is creating problems in my life". All his words stapped her heart. Tears rolled down her cheeks.His words haunted her.He did not even think about their baby. All she did was not to expect love and affection from him and to be positive for the sake of her baby....yes her baby. The small little cute life should enter this world with a smiling face. So there once again love is killed.
I know after reading these stories you guys can think why Iam supporting the girls feelings alone?Nope it's not about the girls or boys feelings its about the love. Where did the life in it go? Love between families and friends are more than beautiful....why can't it be the same between two souls? Love is care, affection, commitment, trust, loyalty, honesty, adjustment, understanding, helping and more than anything love is love.But now a days love is attraction, touch and sex. If you love a person love him/ her whole heartedly. Love their scars, love the way they are.
Don't love a person because you feel lonely!
Don't love because you want to show the world that you have a girlfriend or boyfriend!
Don't love a person because you want a hug!
Don't love a person because you want someone to sit in the backseat of your bike!
Don't love for others opinions. Love for yourself. Love only if you can marry him/her. Yes you can say me that I have gone stupid but this is what I feel. Iam an ordinary Indian girl who likes her culture. I will love a person only if I can marry him. Iam so selfish that I should be his first love, first kiss and his first only. Iam so evil that I should be the only girl to sit in the backseat of his bike except his family members (haha).
I know it's wierd and there won't exist a person like this, I should only manufacture! But guys just think for a minute....will you accept when your husband or wife says to you that " you give me the same feeling like him/ her"....will you? No you can't! Atleast a bit you get hurt. Whatever you do for them and that makes them remember their first love! What will you do? How will it feel....So damn hurt!. Everyone are different and you can't feel the same way for two people or more.
Love has life. Don't get hurt and don't hurt others. Love can simultaneously give you butterflies in your tummy and can make your heart beat faster. Its love don't kill it.
P.S: just think on it. These incidents are real and are happening around me, just thought to share. Happy days☺