Ever endured someone offer you bad news? What about good news? What's the difference or is there a distinction?
Good news - stuff or information that produces us happy, content, reassured, secure and validated.
Bad news - the opposite.
So, it seems that there is a distinction between good and bad news - read on.
Perhaps you have gotten bad news but in the end things proved well or a lot better than you anticipated? Perhaps you have received good news and as time passes everything you thought was good news finished up being not too good?
From personal experience I will let you know that I have noticed all four -
Good news that has been good.
Bad news that has been bad.
Good news that I thought was good but finished up being bad.
Bad news that I thought was bad and finished up being good.
Confused yet? Well I know that as time passes I was often confused about the difference between those two apparent opposite messages. But I found that sometimes bad news for one person may be perceived as good news for someone else and so good news to at least one person as time passes may be perceived as bad. ultimele stiri
Confused? I'd like to explain.
Ultimately it's just news and what makes it bad or good or even neutral is not the headlines itself but exactly how we perceive it, judge it, evaluate it or react as a result of it.
How do someone perceive bad news as good you may ask? Or the opposite, how could someone perceive good news as bad?
In brief - each folks includes a unique history, experiences, beliefs and values and consequently none folks ever see the same or circumstance in the same way.
Someone who is a worrier, negative, pessimistic or impatient might visit a delay as bad when another person who understands the thought of you will find things we could control and you will find things we can't control so just why get all upset about something you can't control or when you can control it get busy.
Ultimately everything that happens - just happens and what we do is interpret it all based on our expectations, goals, needs or mindsets and most of these are unique for every of us.
I'd like to give you a handful of personal examples. And if you will look at the explanation even though may very well not have had the same circumstances, if you will think about it I'm going to be you are able to relate.
Prior to staring my speaking and training career I was a national sales manager for an international organization. Long story but the short side is I had a problem with my boss, the president and consequently he fired me. Bad news, right? Well that has been all I needed to choose it absolutely was time to begin a vocation that's lasted over 40 years and has allowed me to see the entire world (25 countries to date) and work with some tremendous clients and audiences. So in the end this bad news was really good news.
Here's another quick one.
Years back I proposed to my wife and she said yes. Good news right? (No judgments here please). More than time after doing my best for a lot more than fifteen years I decided so it was time for you to end it and why? Well, minus the gruesome details, the relationship was gradually eroding my self-esteem, confidence and optimistic mindset and I decided that I didn't like who I was becoming in that relationship. We parted, amicably - but we parted. Good news as I was able - as time passes - to regain all I had lost - emotionally and spiritually.
We all have our stories and all of us can create lists of good news and bad news we've received but in the end it's all just news.
During some of my corporate programs I share this simple concept - stop asking your employees for good news or bad news - just inquire further for the headlines and then you definitely decide which it is. Because their definition could possibly be completely diverse from yours.
And vice versa - being an executive or manager don't broadcast - I involve some good or bad news - just tell your employees you've got some news and let each of them interpret it because they see fit based on the personal viewpoints, attitudes, mindsets, experience, expectations and how it might impact them personally.
I do want to inform you here that I'm not speaing frankly about denial, surrender, acceptance or apathy - just the willingness to see that there could be another side of the story, one you may be missing because of your history, viewpoints, opinions, judgments etc.