Girl- Why did you super like me?
Boy- I liked the third picture a lot. You look cute and hot.
Girl- Hehe, Thank you
Boy- So why tinder?
Girl- It’s entertaining to come back home and have someone to talk to.
Boy- I guess you don’t type much at work? I on the contrary detest typing, so can we take this conversation on a call? (Not on a call but seeking a better chat interface they meet on whatsapp. )
Girl- Why Tinder?
Boy- Readily available people to converse with while your flatmate is busy with his girl and you can’t play ps3.
Girl- That’s a rather shallow reason to look for love.
Boy- When did Tinder become a love seeking place?
Girl- The founders will be sad to know this
Boy- I mean, you can meet people, hook up, do stuff, and sooner later who knows you might even start liking them, but love is too far fetched.
Girl- Two people liking each other is love. If simply put.
Boy- But Love is not simple and E motions are strange.
A generation is slowly moving towards damning the concept of Love but secretly connecting with the typicalmushywordporn posts. Let’s be honest we even save them many times to revisit the desire to fall in love or to find someone. But to come to terms with the fact that, the wordporn image represents an emotion- an emotion of responsibility, full time occupancy and commitment, we have an escape route. Blatantly put we fear commitment.
No, we of course are on time and ahead of it when it comes to replying to an email from work or sending in a deck, last minute but responding to that one long text where your partner (interest) demands dignity or wants to give a name to the settlement you are in , that , is a task . And let me tell you the cribbing in yo ur head , the DND mode on your phone or anything else does not help.
You can run, you can hide but you can’t escape that confrontational text.
And if you are willing to know the reason why you got in this situation in the first place then your answers are here, decoded by us. We face such situations because
● We never quite ourselves know what are we looking for?
● And what do we want when we actually start liking a person.
In this process we forget that we are dealing with people, emotions, love.
The process is simple and subconsciously step by step-
1. You, for yourself are kabira (Ranbir in yeh jawani hai diwani).
2. Kabira’s philosophy is “Main udna chahta hoon, daudna chahta hoon, girna bhi chahta hoon ... bus rukna nahi chahta”. Therefore you never want to settle. Stop. Commit
3. You completely overlooked the scene when Kabir finally went to her at the end of the movie to seek commitment
4. How Bollywood taught us it is far more important to be a ‘Chulbul Pandey’ than a ‘Prem’
5. How Chota sa ghar, hai yeh magar became ‘Champagne ger di hai tune meri pant pe, aur kehti hai change karlo hotel leke rent pe’
6. How we have multiple options within the same budget is an idea which we have been playing with since the 90’s. Today, the same idea is embedded in us. It is a natural thing to seek as many options as one may please. Hence a person sharing our space for eternity is an end to options and that’s too much to give away.
7. How Dada taking off his Tshirt at Lord’s was applauded, Why? Because Machoism was getting redefined, cool was going through renaissance. Hence, aggressive became a statement, a cool statement.
8. How Tinder came in and many others to satiate this idea and sell the same to us.
9. This is where we are today by choice and collective consciousness.
Tenth point awaits and demands a change. A change for love and for it to exist. For Rumi and Coleridge to be true again.