The honeymoon period between two couples doesn't always last forever. Eventually, every married couple experiences a period where they feel like their marriage is about to fall apart- and for some, it does.
According to the Insider, about 38% of marriages in the United States will end in a divorce. Plus, with policies that allow convenient divorcing conditions, the divorce rate will continue to rise annually.
Even though new divorce policies were made with the intention for abused spouses to find a way out from their horrible marriage, many have exploited that to leave their marriages before they can even be fixed.
Maintaining a marriage is not easy- but if you can work your way around all the conflicts and try to improve your marriage, it will rejuvenate the bond you two once had and strengthen your relationship in the long run.
So if you think you are going through a marriage blue phase, allow us to share a few tips that can help you solve the problem before you consider making any rash decisions.
Focus More on the Good Aspects
According to Sarah Schewitz, Psy.D, a clinical psychologist, explained how focusing on your partner's good parts can help you sync better with one another. "One of our biggest instincts is to scan the environment for what's wrong, what's broken, and what's dangerous so you can avoid it and fix it. In a relationship, that is the opposite of what's healthy. If you're constantly focusing on what's wrong with your partner, you're going to feel less connected and dislike them." says Dr. Sarah.
It is advised to pay more attention to your partner's good side- write down a few things that you like about your spouse and even share it with them. Knowing that you are finding the better sides to them will also make them focus on the good sides of you, ultimately connecting you with one another.
Seeking External Help
There are times when both spouses are at a loss at what to do to patch back up their connection with another-in those cases, it is advisable to seek help through external help.
According to the Gottman Institute, an average couple will wait for six years before considering help for their relationship issues- and half of those married couples end up getting divorced within the first seven years.
You don't have to keep yourself in pain for that long needlessly. It is ok to ask for a helping hand- and there are so many people out there who are willing to help you.
Pastor, entrepreneur, educator and author, Daniel Zopoula wrote the book, "All for Nothing Marriage" in which he discussed how silent frustrations and disappointment in marriage could end up killing the quality of your life. He believes there are effective ways to counter these dilemmas- his book goes into great detail on philosophies and experiences to guide you on how you can confront the challenges that threaten your marriage and happiness.
Where you are married or not, remember that every couple goes through hardships. But if you stand together during such trying times, you and your partner will have the confidence to tackle any hurdle, no matter how tough it is, anytime in the future.