What is erectile dysfunction?
Erectile dysfunction is the difficulty to maintain an erection during sexual intercourse, totally when there is no erection, or partially when the erection is lost once achieved. It can occur before intercourse, when attempting penetration, or during intercourse.
This difficulty is related to sexual arousal, and prevents satisfactory sexual relations. It differs from other dysfunctions in that it does not necessarily imply a lack of sexual desire, or a difficulty reaching orgasm.
In fact, most men with sexual dysfunction have a high level of desire, and their distress comes because they cannot express it in intercourse. However, sexual desire can be affected when dysfunction is very common and there is no solution. On the other hand, orgasm does not necessarily have to be altered, since you can ejaculate without an erection; If this happens it is mainly due to the fact that sexual intercourse is slowing down.
Erectile dysfunction is more frequent than it seems, according to an Erection review by the Sexpol Foundation, 50% of men have had erectile dysfunction at some point. However, it is still a taboo subject in our culture, due to myths about masculinity that imply feelings of shame, frustration, and loss of self-esteem in men. For this reason, it is frequently associated with anxiety, depression, insomnia, guilt, physical complexes, fear of failure in the sexual relationship, fear of not pleasing, and fear of performance in sexuality.
Why is the problem of erectile dysfunction happening to me?
Sexual dysfunctions can always occur when the person does not remember having had a sexual relationship without dysfunction, and in this case the cause is normally physical-organic, so it is advisable to go to your GP. However, it is more common for them to start from a specific sexual relationship, dividing their life into two stages, before and after the dysfunction. The dysfunction stage does not occur in the same way, since sexual relations with and without dysfunction can be alternated according to:
• Sexual activity, for example, getting aroused in masturbation but not during intercourse, or when there is an erection in dreams but not during wakefulness
• What eroticizes the person, for example, getting excited with a lover but not with the partner
• The circumstance, for example, getting excited in public places but not in private rooms.
In any case, the dysfunction is established by a vicious cycle of anxiety. The first dysfunction begins in a sexual relationship where either alcohol, certain drugs or drugs have been consumed; Or you have had sex while stressed for different reasons (some vital concern, fear of not pleasing or not performing well, or being self-conscious about the penis). This results in an unsatisfying first sexual relationship that worries the person.
Why does the problem persist?
Any sexual arousal begins with a stimulus that we see as sexual, that is, something eroticizes us as an image, a situation, a person, an action, a thought, or a memory. This activates the relaxation system in our body that allows us to initiate sexual activity.
A person with erectile dysfunction experiences sexual intercourse with anxiety, and far from focusing her attention on those exciting things in the situation or her fantasy, she focuses on elements that are not really erotic. This makes it difficult to connect with their eroticism, pleasure and feelings. For example, he presses on his performance ("I have to work"), anticipates that he is going to fail, obsessively draws his attention to the penis, checking to see if it is erect and thinking about it in an agonizing way; and ultimately, he reasons instead of abandoning himself to his senses and pleasure, which generates more anguish. That is why for an erection male enhancement, the man must have a clear and clear mind to avoid any negative thoughts during the activity in order to enjoy the moment, of course, as long as the cause of the dysfunction is associated with a psychological factor.