Why Premature Ejaculation is Nothing to Be Ashamed Of

Premature ejaculation is a very common issue for many men, but one which very few men are comfortable talking about. Unfortunately, many men who suffer from premature ejaculation are too embarrassed to reach out for help and so they suffer in silence and continue to have the problem. What is really necessary is a change in the way society looks at premature ejaculation so that the taboo is removed from the subject. This will enable men to start looking at it like they would any other medical issue which just needs the right treatment. To help change the way we think about premature ejaculation, this article will look to dispel some of the misinformation surrounding it, and explain why premature ejaculation is nothing to be ashamed of.

What is Premature Ejaculation?

Whilst many people think that premature ejaculation means when a man ejaculates “too quickly”, this is not actually the definition. After all, “too quickly” is a subjective assessment and what is too quick for one person may not be for another. It is more accurate to understand that premature ejaculation is when a man ejaculates before he wants to, or quite often before his partner wants him to. It is a fairly universal truth that you should not judge yourself based on how someone else feels, but in the case of sex, your partner’s satisfaction should be taken into account, and so the likelihood is that what is too soon for your partner is too soon for you. There are generally accepted to be two types of premature ejaculation, these being occasional premature ejaculation and lifelong premature ejaculation, and the distinction between the two is obvious from their names.

What Causes Premature Ejaculation?

As stated above, premature ejaculation is a common problem for a huge number of men, and there is a wide range of factors that can lead to it. Some studies report that at least one in three men suffers from premature ejaculation so if the main causes can be identified, then solutions are more likely to be found. Experts agree that the causes can be emotional, mental, or physical. Emotional factors that can lead to premature ejaculation include being overly sexually aroused or overly anxious about performing well. Mental factors include issues like low self-esteem or body image, chronic depression, or anxiety caused by the memory of previous sexual encounters that are remembered as being embarrassing or unpleasant. There is a range of physical factors that health experts believe can affect a man’s sexual performance which includes his diet, whether he smokes and drinks alcohol, diabetes, prostate complications, and having an overly sensitive penis.

What are the Solutions for Overcoming Premature Ejaculation?

As we have seen, there are various reasons why a man may ejaculate prematurely and so the solution varies from case to case. If the problem is occurring because of an emotional issue, then the underlying issue must first be addressed in order to create some space between emotional and sexual intercourse. For example, if performance anxiety is causing premature ejaculation, breathing exercises, meditation or other methods of dealing with anxiety can help a man to remain calm whilst having sex. Once he has performed a few times without an issue, the anxiety will no longer be there, because having done it before, he will know he can do it again.

Similarly, if the problem is caused by an underlying physical issue, then that must be addressed first because premature ejaculation can be resolved. An overly sensitive penis is a problem for many men but there are some effective exercises that can really help. One of the most tried and tested is the edging technique, where men practice getting stimulated right up to the point of ejaculation and then stop. This is also commonly referred to as the stop-start method and can be practiced both during sex and during masturbation. The edging technique helps men to gain control over their sensations and ultimately over their ejaculation. It can be quite challenging, to begin with but you can see significant improvements in a relatively short amount of time.

Premature ejaculation is an extremely common issue, and in order to find effective solutions, it is vitally important to remove the stigma. Unfortunately, because so many men feel ashamed of the problem, they will not seek help and the issue can end up affecting many areas of their lives, not just their sexual relationships. Premature ejaculation can lead to feelings of inadequacy and isolation, and many men are so embarrassed that they stop having sex altogether. The most important thing is to remember that it is nothing to be ashamed of and to try to identify the source of the issue. Once the causes of premature ejaculation have been identified, finding an effective solution is often very simple.