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Fear is a gift.
I’m talking about the fear we have as creatures that gives us a jolt
when in danger. The jolt either gives us what’s necessary to deal
with that danger, or what’s necessary to get the f*ck out of the
way. That type of fear is something we only feel in the present and
generally lasts for a short time.
Humans are funny creatures because we can carry fears even when
out of danger. If you’ve ever been a victim of crime you know how
it lingers and disrupts the normalcy of your life for quite some time.
It messes with your sleep, keeps you on edge in seemingly safe
situations, and can serve to paralyze you when you try to move
forward.
On top of that, we have this awesome (remembering that the
word awesome doesn’t always mean a good thing) ability to create
fear, not only in ourselves, but also in others. These fears include
(but aren’t limited to) fear of failure, fear of disappointment, fear
of embarrassment, fear of loss, fear of change, and fear of truth.
These fears are technically considered phobias because they’re
irrational, and don’t actually involve danger.
Asking that girl for her number and having her reply with an “eww
no” isn’t going to be the end of your existence. It may feel sh*tty,
and the desire to not feel sh*tty may keep you from asking her. The
same way the fear of disappointing others keeps you from switching
out of Biology class into a Modern Dance class; dating outside your
bubble; or leaving your job as a teacher to be a rap singer.
These phobia type fears aren’t gifts like the adrenaline rush you get
when the car in front of you stops suddenly, and you need to react
tout suite. That adrenaline goes away after a few minutes since it
has served its purpose. Phobias only seem to grow in magnitude
and multiply.
We all have these phobias, and the ones we carry are as unique as
we are. As a mass of people, we can have collective phobias, and
these phobias have been exploited and used to control us like lab
rats for decades (word to Edward Bernays).
We avoid those feelings by playing it safe, or playing along. Our
fear of exclusion motivates our assimilation. Our fear of not
being noticed motivates our loud behavior. Our fear of loneliness
motivates the personal sacrifices and compromises we think are
necessary to be accepted by others. We’re all doing the same
dance, but think we’re in it alone because we’re moving to different
music.
The courage we need to develop is not the ‘knight in shining armor
super duper confidence unfazed’ courage. It’s the recognition of
what we fear, and deciding that even with the tiniest baby steps,
we move forward despite them. What you fear isn’t the roadblock;
allowing the fear to keep you from moving is the real obstacle. FDR
said it during one of America’s lowest times, “The only thing to fear
is fear itself.”
Whenever I have issues or find myself feeling uneasy or hesitant,
I ask myself, “What are you afraid of?” Answering that question
clarifies who I am, and it’s the first step to overcoming that fear. In
most cases, what I fear is dramatically worse than the reality of the
situation.
As I go through these adventures being a public figure and hear
every opinion across the spectrum, everything I ever feared people
would think of me, they already have. Yet here I am, still breathing,
beard still soft, rhymes only getting better, learning lessons even
quicker. I’ve seen people dig themselves out of holes a million times
worse than some of my created phobias.
No one is fearless, but the bravest people I know are those most
in tune with their fears and phobias, and have decided not to let
those get in the way of their happiness.
As always, this is going to require you to have a conversation with
yourself to discover these fears. Identifying them will be the first
step to conquering them.
we all have dealt with heartbreaks. this piece of story,makes it easy. may we all be lIke coffee. :)
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Published on August 29, 2015
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