Everybody does crave for companionship, who doesn’t? We all want to fall in love and be loved back by a special someone. Even if we deny it, deep down we all wait for the ‘special moment’, don’t we? But, before we start day dreaming and fantasizing about our love lives, why don’t we date and fall in love with ourselves?
Everyday has become a struggle for all the single girls. Why are we so obsessed with ‘falling in love with some head over heels’? The journey which we have embarked on to achieve the idea of love has actually led us astray. We have to realise that there is a ‘girl’ who need love and enjoys others’ company. We have forgotten that there is an innocent little girl concealed behind the mask of a strong woman. We have forgotten that the flamboyant girl wants to live her life and enjoy it to the fullest. We have forgotten that she exists. Yes, we have killed her and the soul cries everyday to bring her back to life.
We do not need to depend on others to make ourselves happy. Yes, it is not fine when you get stood up on a date, it is not fine when you wait for a man to reply you back and crave for his attention. It is not fine when a man only judges you on your looks and not your beautiful inner self, and yes it is not fine when he ditches you for another one. But, it is fine to cry and let it go. Sometimes, you need to put your foot down, and realise that you are not ready to accept people’s rejection. They are no one to reject you. Nobody can discourage you until you give them the liberty to.
You need to realise that you are not only a precious gem; you are the rare and unique one. You are hard to discover and priceless. Don’t let anyone devalue you. I know there are millions girls like me who try to follow their inner voice, who try to console themselves everyday, who try not to shed tears in public, and at the end of the day they retire to bed feeling disappointed. But, you don’t realise that your struggle make you a stronger woman every day. You learn to accept yourself the way you are. Yes, sometimes it does not make sense, but in the long run you would surely blossom as resilient woman who would be able to endure all the pain and would surely rebound to face it all over again.
Don’t be afraid of criticisms, don’t be scared of judgements, and most importantly don’t fear love. Love unconditionally but do not lose yourself in loving someone. Express yourself to the fullest. Don’t try to control your emotions, let them overflow, let them go. Don’t wait for the perfect man to sweep you off of your feet. Fall in love with the imperfect. First, fall in love with yourself. Go on dates alone, try on new outfits which you always wanted to, go out for lunch or dinner dates, explore the new places, talk to strangers, and try making new friends. This world is a beautiful place. Go out and see what others fail to see, speak to people, hear their stories and heal those broken souls. Always remember, there is a lot more to you than you think. You are one of your kind, you are special...