My Friend's Journal

Dear Reader, 

Let me make this clear at the beginning itself this is not my journal, it is my friend's, she wanted some honest opinion, i hope you will help. 

So my friend she is a nice person, nerdy, fun loving, mature, not dramatic, very comforting at times, always gives the best advice but this time we have exchanged the places for a change she need my advice over something important. 

Let's  begin with the beginning, she had break-up two years ago approximately but her problem was simple, she initiated the break-up and after that her ex gets too upset and didn't take the break-up well and she started feeling guilty for her act.

I do believe if you are not happy with someone its better to stop seeing that person instead of keep pretending, i think what she did was right, whatever the reasons she was unhappy so she initiated the break-up big deal. That is not the issue btw, so after the break-up she needed some time to get over the whole being in love state, so she said that to her ex as well, that before going back to being friends again let's just take sometime off. Ex did not took it well, he gets way too upset and sick and she had like zero idea becoz she was using time out, once she was back from the time out everybody who knew about her and her ex blamed her for leaving him and breaking his heart, all she did was apologizing, for what? For choosing your happiness over somebody else? She dealt with all of that on her own, she had no one to talk about  all of this (except me) she was in guilt so she started talking to her ex as friends, she started being there for him in his lows but he was not the same person he used to be, after breaking up with her, he gets into another relationship quite early and his heartbroken again that too not on good note, so this new person is totally a new different person who don't give fucks about love anymore and yeah he did blame her (my friend) for everything he went through, sadness, sickness, falling for another girl and heartbreak, so this makes my friend feel more guilty, she did everything she could to make her ex better, carry way too extra baggage, tried everything possible to make him understand that love is beautiful and you will find somebody in somebody else but her ex was so reluctant, so she stop explaining and start just being for him, no body cared about her mental health, her issues, she continued to live her life with a smile on it always, one fine morning she woke up (yesterday) and she realizes that the break-up was not her mistake, it's destiny's. It all will make sense keep reading, what did your break-up teaches you? That you were not unhappy with the person you are with and it teaches you that loving your own self is the first priority, so that break-up was not entirely her fault, he stop trying after a while she start feeling deviated from him and hence break-up, second he falling for another girl, i mean he should have give time to himself before stepping into a new relationship just after 20 days of break-up! So yeah not her mistake again. Yesterday when she get up for her bed she realizes that this baggage of guilt she is not going to carry that anymore so she explain everything to her ex who is now a friend, he did not take it well and end  up saying "I wish we are together". No no that's not where i need your opinion on, she knows he is a good guy but she knows this is not going to workout so she said "talk later" to him. He gets the idea that she (my friend) is long gone. 

I told my friend that its time for her to look for the new opportunities and give love and dating another chance, she is reluctant too, she don't  listens to me, first she was living in the guilt and now she's leaving everything on destiny to decide, she said she has done chasing now she wants be chased! This is where i need your honest opinion, may be she is right may be she is not. Help 

Thanks for reading. 

Friend's Friend  

* That's not the only issue in her life going. Will right more in next journal. Help, okay!