We grow. Everyday. Every hour. Every minute. Every second. Sometimes we might not notice. Sometimes we might not care. And sometimes we might not even have the time to realize it. It’ not only physically, but also mentally, that we grow. With every little hurtful, unhappy, unworthy realization, we grow. We grow the most when we actually, from inside our hearts, accept our own realizations, and come to peace with ourselves.
We grow when we come out of the little 'lala land' bubbles we live in, wherein we let people come close to us. So close that we start considering them a part of ourselves. So close that we can't spend a day without them. So close that we feel incomplete without them. So close that we see that person standing by us on one side and the world on the other. So close that we can't share them. So close that it hurts too bad to even think of saying goodbye. So close that we can't fight the urge to tell them every little detail of our life, which other close people may not know about. So close that they mean the world to us.
And then comes that one day, the very day which nobody wants in their lives. And that day, the same person who was so close to us just walks away, slaughtering all strings of attachment. The same strings which weren't meant to break. And in the blink of an eye, we're supposed to let go and forget everything. Every little memory, every little fight, every little disaster which we later laughed at, every senti message, every picture taken together. EVERYTHING. Whatever the reasons may be, separation is like the 'pause phase'. Where according to us, our lives pause. It’s the hardest phase to take in. The phase which seems never ending. The phase where we want to just sit in a corner and moan without others noticing. The very phase, which the world dreads.
Slowly, very slowly and steadily, this phase goes away. And as it goes it takes all the pain away. And we slip into our normal selves. That is the time when we accept our lives without that 'someone'. And this kind of acceptance makes us grow much more. Even though it’s the most difficult, it makes us go through growth. It makes us grow.
-Vida.