Being relevant is what makes us do things like being more friendly more active because there's a necessity in our nature to be needed and without that to be honest we are wandering souls who look for a meaning.
That's why you feel lost , broken and sad when someone leaves or dies and it's so frequent and getting used to it's impossible although you say"oh it's fine oh no problem" NO IT'S FUCKING NOT .
Today I was paying attention to my classmates behaviors and they were making jokes as they often do and I realized they were trying to be funny and I came to the conclusion that they were showing how relevant they can be .
I do that and never noticed and this explains so much of our actions as human beings .