Time and tide wait for none. The world has heard and experienced this proverb many times. Time passes, things change and life moves on. A long time has passed since I have written my last note and I believe it is about time I write another. Well I decided to write a note, but had no idea on what topic to write. Brainstorming session was started, ideas were created and thrown into dustbin and finally I came upon something which can create interest anytime and anywhere. The ever green topic of ‘LOVE’. Now now do not think that I have fallen in love. If that thing happens, then probably I would stop writing these notes and start posting pictures on Instagram with hashtags instead. Well I do not have an Instagram account now, so I am stuck writing these notes.
I would like to start this note with the words of William Shakespeare who said, “It is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.” Well the meaning of loved and lost obviously means to get one’s heart broken. But not in the form of getting rejected for a date, but by getting your heart into a million pieces lying on the ground while the person who broke it drives a road roller over it. Have I ever been in that position? Well the answer is no. Well I have never fallen in love i.e. if you are not talking about one sided love where you imagine to live happily ever after with her, then many people have been to that place, even me. I know that this is not real life love, but it is also not illegal. Then before we go into my love life, let us answer a simple question which has baffled mankind for centuries. What is love? I believe the answer is different for everyone. The doctors call love as a sign for changes in heartbeat, release of chemicals in brain and feeling you get when you consume cocaine. For poets and artists, it is dancing in the rain with pink (Gulabi) air flowing by you. For Bollywood stereotypes it is when a couple dances in a busy market where everyone copies their steps. For Engineers it is when you become the attraction of the prom night except for Mechanical Engineers. We Mechanical Engineers do not get a chance at love, we get drawing sheets instead. Well leaving all that aside, I am still to get the feeling of being in love. I am loved by my family and it is natural for them to love me. The love I am talking about here is not family or friendly love, it is that love which elevates your heart rate, makes you daydream, decreases the balance on your cell, is the reason for late submission of assignments and makes you go bankrupt. Well all the nonsense aside, what exactly is love? Is daydreaming about someone is love? Is thinking about only one person called as love? Is saying ‘I Love You’ to someone a sign of true love? The things mentioned above are some of the experiences people go through on their path of love. I have been leading a single life for 20 years and I have been craving to meet that ‘Special Someone’ but the mathematics does not seem to add up. I have never been through any of the experiences before. For me it’s more like this: ‘Do you know the feeling you get when your girlfriend hugs you for no reason, I am still to experience it’. I know you must be feeling that I am a depressing kind of guy but it is not true. I am a nerd, science lover, cartoon fan, bookworm, videogames lover and all the things which girls do not like in boys. Also I am not muscular. So basically on the outside I am not much of a boyfriend material, but this is how I am. I am proud to be a nerd, proud to be a guy who has his 3 year old form in his heart. I have carved myself to be this way. You know how girls go after dangerous boy or bad boys or jerks and when their heart gets broken by those jerks, the girls go to the nice guys for compensation. I am one of the nice guys, actually a very nice guy. I am the guy who gets ‘Friendzoned’ no matter what. I am not like those dangerous or bad boys, I am much more of a gentleman who cares for a girl and treats her like a woman and not like a trophy. There is many more of my type, the Friendzoned type. For all the care, affection and support we show to the girls all we get is “You are the bestest friend I have ever had”. I mean really, we care for you a 1000 times more than he does and this is what we get? What kind of world are we living in today? Narendra Modi ji, Kaha hai acche din? Sometimes I just think upon the phrase ‘Nice guys finish last’ and I feel bad for the nice guys. I mean the nice guys or essentially the nerds are the guys who are surely going to stick around with you throughout your life. We might not be good looking, but do not forget that the richest men in the world were essentially nerds in their life. Now love doesn’t always mean when a boy gifts something expensive to a girl. It can be expressed in some other way. Many times I take an alone walk along Nariman Point and I see all types of couple. The ‘Teen Couple’ who have just discovered love, the ‘Together forever’ couple who just cannot seem to get enough of each other. Then I see a really old couple having a walk and I see love. I see trust, loyalty, caring, affection, kindness, patience and most importantly truthfulness. Basically I see the recipe for a successful love life. My heart immediately fills with joy and a small smile curls up. I have seen sitcoms like ‘How I met your mother’ and ‘The Big Bang Theory’ and in both of the series, the lead who is a nerd gets the girl. But it is a sitcom and mine is real life. Well the whole concept of girlfriend is still very alien to me. I haven’t asked a single girl out but do I regret? Absolutely NO. The reason being that I have a hope that one day I would be watching the sunset with that special someone while walking down the beaches in Caribbean or even better racing cars with her on Passo de Stelvio. Well fingers are crossed and hopes are tied together for this special someone. I am only scratching on the surface of love and there is a whole lot to discover.