Ever tried to talk to your parents about your dreams and aspirations?
How many times that the Indian society and parents have backed intelligent and revolutionary minds?
Ever wondered how much of a taboo it is to even think about taking a divorce in our society?
What is the last time that you heard someone saying it's okay to love and have a relationship with someone outside your caste, socio-economic status, and with not so good looking personality?
Forget about others, Have you ever considered the possibility of listening to someone who is not well settled or doesn't have a proper job?
To a majority, the answer for not hearing any of those at least in a cosmopolitan city is nothing but our societal stigma of " settle first, do later " policy.
When a person thinks about starting his own right out of the college or by discontinuing the college, the first hurdle he/she meets with is the family pressure then comes peer pressure, societal pressure, money problems, unsupporting educational institutions, and the mindset of general populous that a degree is more valuable than experience and passion.
Parents who are supporting at least as mine tells you to settle first ( get a secure job ) and do as per your wish later, this is because of our mindsets which categorize the job holders as esteemed and the one who is struggling to create jobs as unworthy.
Don't smell the Irony here, the one who works at some MNC, being nothing but one in a crowd looked upon as an inspiration but on the other side who trying to build something out of scratch even with no one's support is not even given the basic respect they deserve until he/she establishes a venture where they would eventually seek jobs.
If I have to talk about changing my community or the people's perspective on something, they will only listen to me only if I have either enough bank balance or a job which earns me enough bucks to be treated as someone worth listening, in few cases, people do listen to the common ones only if they have enough age on them. But, the young ones with intelligent and revolutionary thoughts are treated as radicals with heads in the clouds.
Love, This is where the real social stigmas come into the picture, Few of my friends ended their relation abruptly just about when their families looking for matches because they are in love with a person of different caste and they feared their families would not agree to their relationship.
I don't see the purpose of loving someone and vesting your thoughts, memories, future and everything else onto someone and ending it abruptly just because you are incapable of sailing it through? Then why love someone of a different caste or economic status than yours when you actually know the outcome. Mind you, the friends that I talked about didn't even discuss this matter with their parents and convinced themselves that they won't agree.
I am not saying that you should marry the same one that you loved, sometimes we love more than one and eventually they turn incompatible, but in cases where you still have feelings for someone there is no point in marrying someone else and making, their lives miserable.
The last one which is critical, happening and causes a lot of suicides and reason for marital affairs, is living with the people that you don't like or feel compatible with, In other countries you can simply discuss with the other person in the relationship and take a divorce but in our country divorce brings down a tsunami in families and extended families, and sometimes extends to even affect your siblings relations or coming marriages.
To put up industries, to encourage young entrepreneurs, to eradicate the societal stigmas that held us from developing, all this can be done when our mindsets will change about the things happening around us and as it goes, " If you want to change the world, start with yourself first ".