The title may sound bit Feminine. Not exactly, but its true for some girls who has come from middle class family and have inferior complex in mind, Its must for them to read.
Irrespective of whether you are a professional or home maker or entrepreneur or whatever your first preference should be family yes its your new family. If you are staying with your in laws then your first preference is your in laws not your husband.
If you are earning more than your husband then its your problem and you should be ready to take all kinds of words for your huge earning irrespective of your talent or knowledge
If your husband forget something like keys or bills or handkerchief then be ready for the words that hit your ears
If your husband does not like the your cooking then be ready for all the suggestions that you get from all the 8 direction
If your husband like your cooking then be ready to forgot that recipe, 'Coz your MIL (Mother in Law) will never allow you to prepare that dish again.
If your husband takes you for outing then next weekend you have to plan your outing with your in laws
If you forget something like giving dress to iron or bringing veggie or curdling the milk then you are gone for that week
If you prepare dosa batter and dosa does not turn well in color then its the mistake of your hands that it will not ferment the dosa batter properly
After all if by mistake you fail to do something then you are totally gone for next whole year, you should be ready to listen the same words for next one year
There wont be any respect for the job what you are doing so manage your profession as going late and leaving early
Ha Ha ha ha ha.. above all points may sound funny but these are true, when your MIL is all broad minded for outer world and not for you.
Its not the problem of only some girls its the problem of so many girls in that some show all guts and pass the same words on in laws face and move out of relation(Which is a bad idea) but some girls will be so inferior from inside that they do not even utter a word unless saying yes to all.
It does not mean i am saying all MILs are bad, they are good but not for you.
It happens to many girls who try to get adjust but feel very hard to get adjust, and due to not speaking the frustration start building from inside and you loose all attention of what you are doing and it directly effect your health and due to stress sometime it effects your fertility process also.
So how to avoid all these, Irrespective of what your MIL is saying do not take all words as serious, ignore some words. Try meditation, try to be happy from inside. Respect your in laws, say 'yes' to all what they say, after all they are one who gave birth to your husband and keep in mind compared to your life span now their life span is less so just respect them and your life will be all happy.
Discuss some matters with your husband and try to find a solution. There will be a solution for everything. Else you alone think of what you are doing. If possible discuss some matter with your in laws and you may find solution hopefully.
For a girl who adopted her own way of living for some 20 years, its difficult for her to get adjust for a new life at a shot, give her a chance. compromise with her. Allow her to say her words. Its true "A women's biggest enemy is another women" but it all depends on you as how you treat your enemy...!