I have always wondered about the age of 21 !
Why do they always call it the "Age of adulthood"?
Why it isn't the age of 20 when we become adults?
If you want to know if I found the answer of that unsolved mystery, Well, I did.
Let me take you back to the night when I said "Good bye" to the age 20 first..
I had an exam that night, but that didn't prevent me from celebrating. I Put on my favourite purple lipstick, and a song as well, that I was looking forward to hear it is called "Yesterday my age was 20 ".
(A famous song in the egyptian culture).
I was a free spirit, a young soul dancing all around and singing. Finally I am 21!
Somehow I used to think that the maturity of that age won't touch me. Maybe because backthen when I looked into the mirror, held my black hair strands and looked into my face, my features were kind of childish as me when I was a teeanger, or maybe because I was always told that I Iooked younger.
It was an awesome night. But I didn't know that my whole life prespectives will be altered on the age of 21.
Or that I'll know what the meaning of maturity is, You know it was said before in the forest gump movie : Life is a box of chocolates, You never know what you are gonna get.
The plot twist that happened to me, Was a self-discovery.
I walked into the 21 with a 20 previous years that were full of lots of lessons I should have applied, but I only learnt without applying.
Well, Everything I passed through the age of 21 was life-altering. it made me apply those lessons, find their meaning, and learn new lessons.
I passed through situations that made me get a new theory, those situations were like a huge wave that came hit my body while I am just standing in the middle of the sea, I thought I'd drown, but what happened is that I got up but with salty water in my mouth and a strange look in my eyes that were widened from the fact that I am breathing, and that I survived.I couldn't describe it less differently than this feeling.
I extracted those 21 perks:
1- When you think that family comes first, Only means that you spend time with them then you are completely wrong, Family comes first means when you are totally broke emotionally, physically and mentally. They"ll be there because they are the only ones who love you unconditionally.
2- Your life is as how you see it to be, as simple and as complicated as that, There is a lot of angles we can see life through..it is our choice.
3- Sometimes you'll feel like "You are standing in the middle of your life not knowing what to do".. well, I've been there too, It is normal.
4- if you passed through "3".. Then one of the two things must have happened to you, Either you lost your ability to live, actually live a life you deserve or you started digging through the depths of yourself to find what you want rightaway.
5- "lost the ability of living", As sad as it is as real as it is, It is normal if you spent a time of your life where you cried everyday about that ugly feeling, only distracting by hanging out with your friends. but you were totally overwhelmed by that sadness. "it is okay to be vulnerable " and to feel sadness as part of life, as happiness exists, Sadness exists too.
6- You'll start to know that being 21 is different from being 18, Because your innerpeace will be so much important than having fun.
7- Don't get the sixth perk wrong, Never stop having fun, Sing, Dance, Laugh from your heart, Be a child, but also never forget to search for what feeds your soul.
8- A very ugly truth you'll learn by 21, Not everyone who pretends to be your friend is Really your friend.
9- Bestfriends will be the ones who will lighten you up in the most amazing way, They won't be alot in number, and some of them will be distanced, but you know it they were true to you because they did the bestfriend role at its best at some point in your life and that dosen't make them bad people.
10- Your mom and dad are the most important bestfriends in the world. If you weren't that close to them (in a friendship as your age) in your teenage years. Do yourself a favour and try to make them your bestfriends. you'll thank yourself later.
11- Appreciate the little moments, Life passes quicker than what you think, Don't waste it waiting for big things, Because you'll realize that those moments were the big things.
12- You don't have to feel strange about anything in yourself, You'll be totally changed, You'll discover alot of elements in your personality, Let them show up, Accept them with a smile.
13- Passing by twelve, You'll get the perk no.13 which is "Treat yourself with compassion"..We are always told to have compassion for others, to accept them for who they are, but we should also have compassion for ourselves too.
14- Realize what type of a person you are, Are you an introvert, Extraovert or ambivert?
if you are an introvert, You like being by yourself more than around people.
if you are an Extraovert, You like being around people more than being by yourself.
if you are an ambivert you are mixture of both.
well, I am ambivert.
15- The reason why I wrote the 15th perk was, That realizing what type of a person you are will help you to understand what makes you happy, or comfortable, and also will help you to understand the differences between you and the personality of others to deal with them in the best way.
16- Try to never hurt anybody, Life is short, it is shorter than carrying the weight of guilt towards another soul.
17- Apologize, and learn to accept others apologies. But Never let anyone hurt you twice.
18- Forgive yourself for all the things that lead to you being hurt or that once broke you, You are a human being, and that what shaped you into the person you are.
19- Never compare yourself to anyone, Have that confidence that everyone of us, has his own signifcant role, and Never pay attention to someone who compares themselves to you in one way or another, They never knew what you passed through and only look at the outcome.
20- Life is full of cons and pros, It is mainly a test of your strength and patience..Even if you know all the perks of being 21, or even if you are mature, It dosen't make life easier, but it makes you stronger.
21- Finally, The last perk, and the most special to my heart perk, It is simpler than ever, we can all do it , Breathe, Your breath is precious, Every heartbeat, Says you are surviving and having the gift of life which makes you unique.
Breathe..
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