It's not only okay to be confused it's a darned good thing. Now that you are confused, don't look outside for help, look inside deep into your own heart. Matter cannot be created or destroyed, it only changes its form. There is a recipe for happiness. All humans are enmeshed with the world full of opposites. May it be grief and joy, birth and death, profit and loss etc. These emotions are all linked and interwoven. We should accept both the emotions with the same sunny attitude or reject both the types. This will indeed make us Calm thus indicating no fear, no desire, no sorrow, no anger thus no rejection too. Eventually the magic will be created.
Life is a rollercoaster.You can't control it but nevertheless you can enjoy it. Every up is followed by downs. A closed window always leaves a little space for a beam of light to peep through it. That brings a ray of hope for a bogged down person and motivates him to move ahead.
This is what is the yoga of knowledge through a lensperson's eyes.