To every girl who has had her heart broken.

He was cute right? so adorable. The little things he did for you made your heart melt. Forget about the butterflies, he gave you the whole goddamn zoo.You felt happy and satisfied. But now he's gone and you feel so lost. You don't know what to do. You sit and look up his social media account to just find one new picture of him or a new piece of information about him. Hell you stalk his mom, dad, uncle, dadi everyone just to find something about him. You still are not able to listen to "Terrible Things" by Mayday Parade without crying. At nights when you sit and stare at the walls, the whole of your relationship comes in front of your eyes. Then one day he decides to message you. Your heart leaps when you see that notification on your phone. You reply to the message and a conversation starts with both of you catching up on each others life.His life is very different now but you are just so glad he chose to tell you about it. He tells you that he still loves you and thinks about you all the damn time. When you hear this, your heart leaps with joy, you have tears in your eyes, you want to jump and say YES!!!, yes you think about him all the time too, yes you miss him, yes seeing Ross and Rachel on tv makes you hope it was him and you. But when something like this actually happens, i want you to STOP. I want you to stop and think the following:

1.Why did you guys break up? what was the reason and do you think that reason has been sorted out? do you think its worth sorting out that reason anymore?

2.Is he ready to accept the fact that you are a changed person now and not the one you were say 3 or 4 months back? Does he show warmth to the fact that you have GROWN?

3. Does he respect your emotions? Does he acknowledge the fact that you are hurt and feeling low for a long ass period of time or is he just making fun of you so called "depressed state"? 

4. Is he talking to you because he wants to know how you are doing or just because he noticed some new guy commenting on some post of yours? was it curiosity about your life or that new guy?

5.And most importantly ask yourself and think whether its worth to go through the entire process of emotionally investing yourself in the guy  only to get hurt again.

Take those memories and put them carefully in the corner of your heart and move on. Grow, learn and live life. Don't wait for any message from anyone, don't hurt yourself more by seeing other peoples life on social media, who knows if its even true? spend time with people who make you feel comfortable and loved and if not that then spend time with yourself. And maybe one day someone else will come in your life, someone who will be nothing at all like your first love but someone totally new and magical and better. Till that time? GROW and LOVE yourself because you are the source of magic in your life.