"All what I felt is that I want to make this person happy" that's how she fell in love with him..
She kept going " he told about his life burdens and I felt I wanna do everything that would make this person happy".
What I had in mind was "I never witnessed love between a man and a woman, I don't know how to love a man, so let me see how you do it"
Making someone happy sounds like a "love"-ly start.
My family nurtured us all about men.."control freak, useless, selfish beings ..so stay alert". "Were you not afraid? " I asked her.. she told me that happy relationships aren't the easiest, it takes huge effort and there are no short cuts to happiness, and that the confident independent woman has to give up her ego-ish, arrogant attitude for the man she loves. Keeping in mind that this "ego" has been growing world wide lately.
-Did he love you at first sight,is this how it works?
I wondered to myself, would wanting to make some one happy enough to make him fall in love?
You can be beautiful, smart and funny but still unloved by the person you desire, or even any other person. I don't know if he did but I think I did. I trembled when he is around and for a long time all my replies were just "OK" like all words in the world has vanished...
- Being attractive and still not loved is challenging, this challenge is nice when not over challenging. We bring out the best versions of ourselves. As long as you don't loose your true self, this will act as a nice added spice.
Handling a woman is a hard task for a man, isn't it?
Being a good person is one thing and being a good romantic partner is a totally different thing. When something goes wrong between the two of you, you should allow yourself to be handled other than challenging your partner more and consuming their energy just to please your ego. Don't overreact. Allow yourself to let go and forgive, that is more peaceful for everyone.
Keep in mind that strong men are hunters, -if not strong you will be the one hunting- they are always fighting to keep and enhance their homes, jobs, families..etc. They don't have the effort or the mindset to handle the imaginary battles, insecurities and social anxieties that hadn't even started yet. Use your time wisely. We all worry unrealistically sometimes but don't let it linger. This consumes effort from both parties, and gives a space for unnecessary negativity to grow. And defiantly it's a waste of time
-Preparing for setbacks. Don't you fight?
When you don't have enough self regulation to forgive and negativity starts taking over or when your partner is stressed out or gets overly aggressive. Or when you ego takes control. The best way to get prepared for such moments is by getting yourself surrounded by good people. Both of you.
Good friends. Being surrounded by good people affects your behavior, they can counteract the negativity and anger. They can show better ways to handle things and set good examples to be followed. Our friends somehow defines who we are.
Is this mindset good enough to create a FOREVER?! I will always keep wondering..