Romance and other misleading things

This title is so long,
it might as well be a Fall Out Boy song
but boy, do I have a problem with romance.
We grow up with this idea of romance, it's like this knowledge we are expected to be born with
like knowing how to breathe or sleep
yet romance is more learned
It's learned
like table manners or like greetings in polite company
and yet it's not quite taught.
We're never taught
to love or romance ourselves.
I'm never told to buy myself a bouquet of red roses
and smell them while eating a full box of chocolates
sitting satisfactorily on my old couch.
Flowers remind me, what's up with nature and romance.
Romanticism started with nature.
Loving mother earth and her purity 
Because war had killed half the humanity 
And yet I see people writing poems 
About wet grass and looking at the sky
Honey, you'd complain about mosquitoes 
and run away to your air conditioned room 
Yet romance blooms
everywhere 
From cloudy skies to bride and grooms 
Yet my love isn't quite shown till I 
Sit across from you with a candle light 
The food is shit expensive and 
this candle is attracting months because it's so bright 
But the time I picked you from cold bathroom floor 
When you were crying wasn't romantic 
The time my friend went on a self date was just loneliness 
And not love for herself 
And discussing our nerdy passions wasn't quite loving as 
The rose petals which would be hell
to clean later 
I think what I'm trying to say is there is greater 
Love in store for us 
Once we abandon what they sell 
And know that shiny love cannot be publicly sold, 
It's raw and personal