Relationships are crazy. Be it friendship, lovers, or any damn bonding. It starts on a happy note, but with time, the creepy problems creep up. And when that happens, we go fault hunting, not in the mirror, of course, but in the other person. No, I am not blaming you for doing it, as it's the most natural thing to do. But, that's exactly how relationships break, and that's exactly how you end up hurting yourself the most.
The solution, you ask? The solution is to understand and accept that no one really changes. People can pretend to improve a thing or two. They may actually, in real, bring about a change that will make you happy, but, and a big ass but, deep inside they stay the same person. So what happens is that they change for some time, but then they come back to their old-self, in their true colors. And when that happens, you go into that hurt hopeless mode, yet again. So, that's how you keep losing your peace, forever.
Okay, so now you have accepted that people can't really change their core. Now, what you do about it, because you are not fine with that tragedy? Well, the next step is to change yourself, but not change as a person, just expectation wise. If the relationship matters enough to you, then try to analyze what you were expecting. Think whether it was reasonable, practical, and real or just a silly golden wish of yours from your perfect la la land. Once you think over it, you will water down some of your complains. Now the next step is to have an honest open discussion about it and give it another chance.
What if the person still doesn't do his/her bit to meet you on a common ground? What if that person wants only you to adjust and compromise? Well, in that case you must change yourself, again. Now you just change yourself from a person who would keep taking their shit to a person who can't take any shit anymore. You simply need to walk away, sorted and happy. Why happy? Well, because your life wasn't a project of: "let me correct this asshole". Life is about living, and if that person was sucking too much life out of you in fights and arguments, then the best thing you could do to yourself is to walk away, smiling. So, congratulations.
So now the too touchy people will come and say: "But I can't walk away. It's not that easy. I am just too much in love for that". Well, the answer to that is: It's your life, and you are absolutely free to ruin your own life in your tears and weakness. And nobody, I repeat, nobody gives a damn. If you don't value your life, your happiness, even that much, then nobody can save you, not even god. So, just sit down and talk to yourself, because others telling you these things doesn't work with you. Ask yourself what exactly are you doing here? Didn't you try enough, already? Isn't that person taking you for granted now? Doesn't the person know that no matter how shitty he/she treats you, you will go back to him/her? Don't you think you are being exploited? Don't you think you are spitting on your self-respect? Don't you see that you have ruined your whole life, other relationships, and your dreams just because you were too weak to walk away from a wrong love? And when you get answers to all those questions, you will be in better position to make a call.
And no, I am not saying that I solved your problem for you. That's too stupid to even consider. I just told you how things are. Because sometimes, in all the chaos inside, we go blind to the reality of a relationship. I just want you to understand that most relationships don't work, and every single one of them suffers when they decide to walk away. But, life is about getting up after that struggle and making it beautiful, again. I am not promising you peace at night, after you walk away. But I promise that after some time, you will be in a better place, breathing life, living life, and enjoying life. Don't live in the hope of them changing with time. Change yourself and live in the reality that only you can make yourself happy. Happiness is a choice, tough choice, yes, but still a bloody choice. So choose happiness, please.