I’ve been raised as free as a bird. No restrictions or whatsoever. My parents always gave me the right to be who I wanted to be and never interfered in any decision I took in my life.Yes, they gave their opinion but they never told me that I had no other choice. Though they’re strict, they’ve always been very understanding, very liberal, and I’ve been raised to respect everyone and treat them equally. Whether they’re poor or wealthy, smart or not, man or women as long as they breath, as long as they have feelings then I had no right to treat them badly. They used to tell me ‘Treat others the way you want to be treated’.
But, unfortunately some people think that because I am a women they have the right to take over my life and become the master of my decisions, the admiral of my body and therefore downgrade me and transform me into a slave… Their slave.
Some people think that it is okay to judge me because of my attitude, my outfit or even my opinion on major aspects of life. Some hypocrites think that it’s okay to backstab me and criticize me behind my back. Others believe that my gender will restrain me of doing the job I wish to do, or that they’re superior to me.
Being a women has never been easy. We didn’t have any right at the beginning, we would spend our life under the authority of our fathers or husbands. We couldn’t take any decision, they were already taken for us. Slowly slowly things got better and we started seeing a brighter sky. We finally got the right to vote, to work and to get the same salary as a man.
Yet, we are still considered inferior. CEOs still think that pregnancy is a valid reason to fire us. Pads, tampons, hygiene products, anything that has to do with our monthly cycle gets taxed by governments.
Even though we are mothers, daughters, friends, sisters, wives, we get mistreated. Lots of women have to deal with verbal, physical, emotional, physiological abuse. We, at least once in our lifetime have been sexually harassed and some unfortunately also get raped. What is worst is the fact that medias usually take the side of the abuser/rapist not of the victim. They blame us of wearing outfits that are too revealing, they blame us for getting drunk, they blame us of walking alone, but they rarely blame the abuser of having issues, being psychological unstainble or simply of being a rapist.
Medias have also reinforced the idea of the perfect women. Men now expect to have a smart wife, with a flat stomach, big assets, perfect skin and tan, with no hair or flaws. This often leads us to annorexia, bulimia, depression, cyber bullying or even worst.. to suicide. We cannot afford to skip one workout, and have to shave a soon as we see one hair popping out.
Nevertheless, as I said at the beginning I was raised as free as a bird. I have always been independent and never cared about others. I truly believe that sooner or later those disadvantages I stated before will be part of our past. Till then, I will fight any injustice and live happily as I always did. I will never care about what others say about my body, because I will love it and embrace it. My body is one of the things that make me unique and beautiful and I just don’t care if nobody can see it, as long as I’m joyful and confident in it then why should I care?
Truth is, I love being a women. I love being free. I love being happy. I love being independent. I love being strong.
That’s who I am, and that’s forever who I’ll be.
To all the women out there, you are beautiful, you are strong, you are bright, you are perfect just the way you are, and don’t let anyone tell you anything else.
You are worth and deserve every beautiful thing in this world.
Be proud of who you are.