Are You And Your Partner Meant To Be?

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A place to be if you want a business and a life that you love. How important is that? My 4-year-old boyfriend is very supportive, but I feel like we're not on the same page. I want to live and travel and experience and control.

Go, girl. He is happy to work on the collection line until his retirement, working long days and always being tired with little time off. This worries me because I want to have kids someday. He would rather stay at home and sleep than go out and experience life with me. He makes a good living but has no desire to live doing something he is passionate about or even exploring other options. I love it, and we get on famously, but can our different perspectives get in the way of how I can live my best life?

Girl, that's a big question. Great! I want to say that this is a difficult situation and there is no right answer. I mean, I'm sure there are couples out there who have completely different life goals, and they're as happy as scallops. Similarly, different career goals and life intentions can be a legitimate cause for disappointment. I mean, after all, everyone has dreams, and you have the freedom to pursue them. But here's the thing, you need to be clear on your truth. Whatever your relationship, it's a choice. You have to plan your relationship however you want. Girl, you have to be honest with yourself about these four factors.

1. The convo children.

The bottom line is that we need to be clear about whether we want children because this can be the right solution. I had a hell of a time when I was dating these different guys, trying to get someone who didn't want to marry me, take me to the fringe areas, so I could start sending out a ton of kids !! Now I kept telling all the guys I met that marriage and children were pretty much off the table.

So when I met Josh, who already had a baby, I felt like I had hit the lotto. Soon after, we discovered that we had very similar goals and intentions for life - not to include more children.

2. The free time fact study.

Now, you say you are getting along famously, but you want to work and come home and sleep, and you want to travel and stay and get over it. the world. Are you going to be happy and content with the small number of shared experiences? Are you going to be happy to do great things most of the time? Maybe you are. But it is also a fact that you need to consider, and you only have that fact.

3. Give yourself an "innocent gut check."

Now here's the truth, and you know it, every woman on the planet DEEP DOWN knows whether she wants to be with the boy she's with. The problem is, most of us can't get to that gut-level reality because we're overwhelmed with guilt. We do not want to hurt someone who is a good person, and we do not want to abandon someone important to us.

Here is what you did. Imagine what it would be like if you could be free from this relationship and your lover would not feel any pain. Imagine that there was no effect. Would you feel a sense of WELCOME? If so, that's a pretty good sign that you could be through with this relationship, and you both have to move on to the next adventure.

4. Ask yourself, why do you want to be in this relationship?

Are you living in this relationship because you're afraid you can't do it financially on your own? Are you afraid you won't find someone else? Or are you afraid of change? OR are you in the relationship because you accept this person and love who you are with him? Do you think that you are getting old together? And if you do, at the age of 90, do you think you enjoy the life you have built together?

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