Be You!

To All The Introverts Out There.

This One’s For You!

A friend of mine isn’t okay with being a introvert. He thinks, it’s a sad thing to be one. He tells me that “you are an extrovert”. And to justify his statement, he tells me why.

“People love being around you, whenever you are around, they prefer you over me. They love to make friends with you rather than me. Even when I am with you, they greet you genuinely and they greet me for the sake of just doing it. They speak to me only when I am their need, and when it’s comes to hanging out, having fun, it’s always you. And that’s evident why I have so less friends when compared.”

That made me think over these two traits. Do they really matter?

I was broken at heart once due to breakup! It hurt. Damn! The person whom you imagined your whole life with. Left you. Just like that. No reason. No explanations. Nothing.

It was my first hand at experiencing a relationship. I had lot of friends at that time, thanks to being an extrovert.

Those days I was silent. I didn’t really speak to anyone. I was into myself, still trying to recover. Trying to soak it in. And you know? As a human, you do have expectations from people and I thought I could share my grief with them. They would understand me, console me, make me understand it’s not end of life. Make me feel better around them.

But what happened instead? I had no one to go to. They didn’t even care to listen to me. They just brushed me off by saying, “Shit happens bro. Not a big deal!”

Not a big deal? Really? That’s what you have to say? It hurt me more than the breakup.

So being a extrovert, isn’t always the best part you know. To the outside world, it sure looks like you have a people when you need them, share your thoughts and also maybe you do get to meet people with this habit. But, you aren’t always are assured to have a best friend. You won’t really have one person to share when you really want to.

So I decided to change. I started focusing on myself more. Spending time reading novels, focusing in improving myself, following webseries, watching movies. Even, when I had to go hangout with friends, I wished I was home wearing pyjamas with a packet of chips and plunge into YouTube for movies and music. I had stopped fashioning myself to people with an approach of being friendly. I was careful of choosing people in my life.

Now, is this being Introvert? If the answer is yes. Then Kudos, it’s felt awesome! I was enjoying the new me!

Meanwhile, It had happened as I expected. I had no friends. It was just me. But, that didn’t bother me at all. I knew, somewhere deep down, that I would make friends who are worthy to stay in my life.

And Voila! I made best friends. Yes with a plural. When small talks were put off and deep conversations of life were happening. When you could share your opinions to someone without the fear of being that circle around. To keep secrets and tell them some. To crack lame jokes and make everyone laugh.

It was like pieces coming together to complete the puzzle. I started to open up again. This time it was different, I was aware of myself, I just knew how to balance my life.

I was an extrovert among my family, my close friends. Where I was completely myself and open towards them and an introvert to outsiders. And this was mostly in my hometown, where people see me as a calm, humble and a composed person. Who doesn’t speak much in public.

What was this new trait, I thought. Was I an Extrovert or An Introvert? I couldn’t explain people this thing. And I recently stumbled upon this word.

Ambivert!

Wow! That’s a fricking awesome name. A perfect blend of both the characteristics, I thought. (Yeah, I didn’t know okay? Big deal?)

No surprise I was receiving both sides of judgements in the past. When asked about myself, people used to give mixed opinions. Now, I could tell what trait I carried. (Oh Yeah, Finally!)

Being honest right now, I would say it doesn’t really matter what trait you carry. Unless you aren’t hurting yourself with that choice.

As it’s evident everything has it’s own pros and cons.

Being an introvert will help you bring the best out of yourself. Helps you analyse ourselves and also enjoy your own company.

Being an extrovert, will bring you more people into your life to have a great social life as well.

Living a content life with good intentions is just enough to make things fall into places.

So hey Introverts!

Be You!
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