NOT TO LOSE ONESELF

I guess somewhere it becomes important in life to realize the fact that.......... " One should definitely not lose oneself in the process of loving someone." Indeed, the feeling called "Love" is beautiful and should be unconditional.. but this doesn't mean that "IT" drags one to the extent that one completely forgets about oneself and is all lost in the other person.

This realization is essential because in case due to any reason, if things didn't work out then atleast one can find the way back to oneself and consequently can move on in one's life with less pain. On the other hand, if a person allows himself/ herself to be lost in the process of loving someone and for any reason the two people are not together then it becomes really hard for the person to get back to himself/herself...to reconnect with himself/herself ...to live in the same way as he/she once lived before the entry of someone special in his/her life. I know...It is obvious that people don't realize it while loving someone because somewhere they don't consider the fact that there also exists a possibility of two of them of not coming together....may be somewhere people don't imagine their lives without their someone special or I should say...may be the feeling called "LOVE" doesn't allow them to take a distant view of themselves. Whatever may be the reason but "this" for sure gives the person an unmeasurable and unbearable pain which sometimes could lead to "self destruction."

Honestly, "Love" doesn't always comes with a guarantee to stay forever in one's life...therefore, I guess people should not forget self worth while loving someone.They should realize that they have a blessing called "LIFE" and they need to live it no matter what. I know..the statement " Not to lose oneself in the process of loving someone" sounds selfish especially if the conversation is about " LOVE" because how can a person not lose oneself while loving someone???...I mean it is natural..because somewhere it is pure and unconditional ...so the maximum is done for the special one but "LOVE" has the other side too i.e. "PAIN" which is unpleasant and is equally damaging. 

In the end, I think "Love" shouldn't be something that makes one vulnerable or  something leading to self destruction...also it shouldn't be something that snatches or seizes all the practical sense of a person.