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Let me start this off direct to the point-- while it sounds heartbreaking to be in the so-called friend-zone, I don't think it is a real place that suddenly exists when your favorite person doesn't want you to be more than friends. The friend-zone is just what you label your cowardice, when you could just tell them straight up that you like them instead of slowly befriending them and showing them the signals that sometimes not all brains could comprehend. You showed up being oh-so-friendly, and that could lead to a lot of things, so in the end when it doesn't turn out the way it was planned it doesn't really mean he/she put you in the friend-zone. You did. You placed yourself in that situation.
So for example, you get attracted to somebody and your initial plan would be: "I NEED TO BE FRIENDS WITH MY CRUSH ASDFGHJKL"
That is the lamest, initial plan ever. That is, if you do not know the difference between friends and acquaintances. Being friends with your crush is a play safe, because you don't even know if you're part of the percentage of people who get married to their friend/best friend according to the Stats. An acquaintance is knowing a person, so slightly, without being a close friend.
Basically, you don't have to be really friends to start dating. This is the modern world. Have some confidence (or if you have a lot of it, tone it down or else the magic wouldn't work) to introduce yourself first. Being mere acquaintances is enough to ask somebody out later on, to tell them your real intentions of getting to know them better not as a friendly friend but as someone who initially likes them. You shouldn't really make yourself look like the second lead (it's always the best friend, I swear) if you want to end up with the main lead. So if you start being the second-lead, who are you kidding? YOU are the one making up a friend-zone for yourself, not the person you like. And things that are made up like that aren't real.
But what if the scenario is you were already FRIENDS with somebody and you wake up one day and find out you have a CRUSH on them? So the plan would be: "I NEED TO BE CLOSER WITH MY CRUSH ASDFGHJKL"
(There's not even a hint of friend-zone there, right? If you're thinking that there is, I think you're being too hard on yourself. Don't think of that friend-zone concept too much or you'll go nuts.)
You're not in the friend-zone, not at all. You're far more important to be in that if you're real friends from the start. There could be two things this could offer: one, it would be a positive thing where you "should remain friends" because there is a possibility that he/she will see that you could end up together some time in the future and you could take that as an opportunity; two, it is still a positive thing, though not as positive as the first one, because you would remain friends and that's it.
It's up to you, really, if you won't be contented of the friendship. If you aren't, that's where you fall: in the friend-zone you say-- because you're the one who would make it up for yourself, not the person you like. It's not real if you just made it up, right?
She thought he was enough, until the heavens gave her a man who was more than enough.
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