The Typical Indian Women!

Sun goes down and moon shines in the night sky and so does the dates pass in the calendar, Days after days, weeks after weeks, months after months, years and decades and so on…! But some things remain same. It’s good if they were - our values our contentment our regard for relationships. But sadly it’s the CONDITION. The condition of a typical Indian woman with a mindset of SAVITRI in the ‘Iron age’. Does shifting from a Saree to salwar suit is modernization? Or at a higher end from salwar suit to jeans is modernization? If you answer is Yes! You need to think twice on your concept of liberation and modernization on women’s part! Little did I knew that people around me felt that if they allowed their wives to drive, to work, to use social networking they are allowing their wives to liberate. Their wives are modern enough with the changes. But dear all that is not the truth.

I believe in a concept which some may consider vague, that is ‘Modernization of a women is a mental or psychological phenomenon’. It isn’t about what your husbands allow or what the oddities you have to face are. It’s about how you handle them, how strong you are independently without any support. Whereas, the typical Indian woman has no inclination towards being better and upgraded. Some people mix being upgraded with being uncultured, but that’s pointless. I would rather prefer a lady covering her face till chest with a veil and having opinions of her own, having a voice as strong as his male counterpart than a woman who togs a skin fit jeans and has no stand of her own, no personal likes and dislikes, who is just a mere shadow of male dominant family. Here is what I find a difference between a LADY and A WOMAN. Former the independent one and later the clinging one.

The fact that sweeps away unnoticed is that, that all the ancient queens who are still remembered for their legacy had a heart of gold and mind of silver, Voice as crystal and firmness like iron. Even in direst consequences they kept their head held up high in self esteem keeping their husband’s vanity untouched. These were women of substance. They understood the power of a Lady keeping in mind all their teachings and jottings.

A fanatic Indian woman who still worships his husband as his god who still hums ‘mera pati mera devata’ needs to understand that it’s never bad to respect your spouse but not at the cost of self respect, not at the cost of being anyway lesser to him, by doing this you are adding to the already overly populated population of conventioneers. People (especially females) comfort their ideologies by terming this whole tradition as our ‘culture’, and rightly so. But have you ever thought why it was our culture? Why it was so? Well as far as I can see it, it was because the husbands were the bread earners for their families and women seemed to be obliged that they allowed them a part in his hard earned resource. She felt curtailed, she felt inferior, and so did it all came up! But now girls women are lettered, they can be the bread winners too. So now think about it…! Where is the ‘DEVATA’ thing anymore?! If it does not convince you enough, you still want to do all those greasy flatterings……. make it a point to make him sing it back for you with some obvious adjustments. Because no other thing in the world today can get women what they deserve if gender equality is overlooked.

Typically, it’s not just a feminist streak in me that evoked me to write an article like this but a stereotype society did. Girls! No more giving up on self respect, Not a word again your dignity. If it’s not right then it definitely wrong there is no middle stream for it. So, if you don’t wear jeans it’s perfectly cool, nothing can match up to the beauty of ethnic attires, it is not an indicator of modernization just be liberal and conscious. Keep your respect at spot one and you will love people around you and they will love you back. Let’s not be the SAVITRI of the ‘golden age’ in the ‘iron age’ which ignites materialism. It’s time to decipher your longings and start taking an equal stake in the pie.