When and How Should I Disclose HIV Status to My Partner?

After my guy rejected me, honestly, I was hurt, and I had so much fear in getting back to the dating game that it took me quite a while to move on because I was afraid that what if it happened again? What if I'm rejected. Let's get into it, disclosing caramel cholo in a relationship. I usually hear people saying disclosing it's just disclosing. It's hard in any situation, never mind whether you're telling your family and friends, your colleagues your kids.

Still, I feel that disclosing in a relationship is more challenging because of familiar friends. It's easier than finding a relative that you guys have been sharing secrets for quite some time that you would feel comfortable disclosing to them. Now you're in a situation where you have to admit that you're not even related to this person. Maybe you guys are still getting to know each other.

When I disclosed, the first person that I told was my sister. It wasn't that hard, and honestly, I didn't even think that she would reject me or maybe that she would treat me differently because we have been sharing things for a while now. So it was a lot easier, so in a relationship, there's fear of rejection. There are questions that you might not be able to answer. Sadly I'm not going to discuss why you should disclose because I feel that revealing it's a personal decision. It's a decision that one makes that they're ready to tell you're having sexual intercourse with. Now that the law says you should disclose, disclosing starts with you as an individual. I'm only going to be talking about ways to prepare yourself mentally, physically. Emotionally when you're going to disclose because there isn't any perfect road map that you need to use to inform, sit them down, talk to them, hold their hands, there is no ideal way of disclosing. Disclosing starts with you, and you need to prepare yourself. So I will advise you to ask yourself have you come to terms with your status? Have you realized your new truth because?

Remember, you can expect people to accept your fact when you even take the truth about yourself. Getting the truth about yourself will help you to start with self-acceptance because self-acceptance goes far beyond just telling yourself that you're okay with your HIV-positive status. It's about how you see yourself. It's about how you see the future. Are you optimistic, or are you having doubts about the future now that you're HIV positive because? It's one thing to say I wish I ever had it and the other to feel shame about it. Remember people will always treat you the way you treat yourself with self-acceptance you will get to be more confident about your HIV status, which will play a significant role when you disclose your HIV status.

Another thing that you need to do is educate yourself because for you to answer all these questions, you need to understand more about the virus itself, the treatment, and the prevention. The more you educate yourself, it will play a role in naturalizing HIV into your life. Another thing is to build a support system. I can never emphasize the importance of building a support system because there isn't a way to embark on the journey of accepting your status and disclosing it. If you don't have a sound support system, it can be a family and friends that you feel comfortable talking to, or you can join Online HIV Positive Dating sites to support love, friendship, and more.

A support system is very much essential, so before you disclose it to your partner, make sure that you have built yourself a sound support system. I would also advise you to prepare yourself for your partner's possible reaction because after you disclose, they might be angry, they might shout, they might reject you, or they might accept you. So you need to prepare yourself for whatever they might say after you disclose because here's the thing you need to ask yourself what response you are looking for in this person. Firstly is it validation, sympathy, or are you looking for them to feel sorry for you?

I remember disclosing to my first boyfriend at that time we didn't have any sexual intercourse whatsoever. Still, I finally reached that moment that says, you know what? I need to disclose my HIV status to him because I've always lied about what was going on with me all along. He always asked me why I kept taking this medication at the right time at the specific time every day. I told him, no, I'm suffering from more alive and all that I tried to make up stories until I sat him down one day. I'm like, you know what, boy, this is what's happening. I've been lying to you. Now I'm HIV positive, and he looked at me. He thought I was joking. I'm like, it's for HIV, and they're called arms, and honestly, I expected any reaction because then I had accepted myself.

So I knew that he might reject me. He might accept me, or he might start asking me how did you get it and all those questions because we had been together for like two years before I found out about my HIV positive status. so right there, he looked me in the eyes and said how did you find out. When I told him that it'd been months that I found out, he asked me, so where did you get it I was born with it, and he looked me straight in the eyes he said, so the reason why you haven't been telling me is it because that you thought that I was going to reject you. I'm like possibly, and he's like no, so you might find that you are stressing about disposing of. Then you can see you can expect any possible outcomes, so you need to prepare yourself and examine those possibilities.

When we broke up, I was so terrified because now I had to meet a new guy. I had to destroy my HIV status as confident as I was so nervous because this guy accepted me before. What if the next one rejects me. Unfortunately, a few months later, I met a guy handsome, and wow, he was very romantic, and me being me, I told myself I was going to disclose. I disclosed maybe a few weeks later because I wanted him first to know you guys and me, I announced, and the guy finished like he Venice into thin air right after I told him he says no we will talk. I have to go, and then when I get home, I'm trying to call her. There's no answer. I tried to text the blue tick. That was the first time.

I was rejected, and trust me, it was painful, honestly not because of my HIV status. After all, the guy was hot, like he was super hot. Now he had to go because of my status, but it was his loss with this scenario anyway. I'm just simply telling you that you need to accept it when your partner rejects you because the possibility is this, so that's why whenever you're going to disclose your need to save room for disappointment, go with that guy. I didn't expect it. He was for capes, mainly because he was romantic after my guy rejected me.

Honestly, I was hurt, and I had so much fear in getting back to the dating game, but it took me quite a while to move on because I was afraid that what if it happened again? What if I'm rejected, so I decided right there and then that whenever I meet a new somebody, I'm going to disclose from the word go maybe two days a few hours, so I met this guy who I'm currently seeing my partner and a few hours after we've been talking. He's telling me how he feels about me. I said, okay, dude knowing that I'm not yet attached to him, and I'm not yet. I haven't heard fallen deep in love with him.

Finally, if somebody rejects you, it's within their rights to do so you need to find a way to pick yourself up. You will get somebody who doesn't care about your HIV status, somebody who will accept you and love you unconditionally, and that will be the best support system. They'll even call you to remind you did you take your medication. So let's keep on taking our arms, condomize, let's always support those living with their virus, and let's do away with stigmatization.