Am I Less of a Woman?

If I will cry over simple things - like a movie or a book, does it makes me less of a woman? If the sunset and the evening sky makes me smile, does it makes me less of a woman? If I don't have a master's degree, does it makes me less of a woman? If I beg for his love, does it makes me less of a woman? What makes a woman then?

Many people say that a woman should be strong and independent. She should not cry over simple things like that sad ending of a movie. She should not waste her tears to fictional characters of her favorite novel. She shouldn't be amazed by things a kid adores like the stars in the sky because those are a child's stuff. People also expect her to be the best among the rest. She should have a degree higher than other woman of her age. And above all, she should never ever beg for someone to stay in her life.

I beg to disagree. Why would you let the society set a standard for you? Why would you force yourself to be the image of a woman the world desires? If you will let the world manipulates you, then you're making yourself less of a woman.

Be yourself. It is you and only you who knows who you are and what you are best at. Just because sad stories makes you cry doesn't mean you are weak. The more you show how fragile your heart is, the more it makes you stronger. Few people are brave enough to let the world know they're weak.

Show the world that there is more to life than having lots of money. Luxurious stones are nothing compared to the things money can't buy. If the latter makes you happy, then you should be proud. You're living a lifestyle beyond ordinary. Your soul is old. You understand that you cannot bring these stuff seven feet under the ground.

Your diploma doesn't define you. So what if your school isn't one of the top universities? The hell you care if the society define your degree as one of the "for-not-so-intelligent" degrees? Or even if you failed to finish school because of many shits of life, why give a f*ck about what people around you will say? Life is not about how successful you become. It's about how successful your becoming is. It is the journey that matters, not the ending.

Say what your heart is crying for. If you love a man, tell him. If that man cannot love you, beg atleast once. Yes of course your ego will tell you why the hell will you beg for someone to stay in your life? This is because the society programmed your mind that you are a queen. But remember - they are also kings. Hundred of years ago, we beg for an equal treatment of man and woman. But if you'll look into the way how a romantic relationship works nowadays, it is always the man who needs understand. It is always them who needs to breakdown their walls. Where is the equality then? Sometimes, we lose the ones we love because we value our ego more than them.

I am sure many women will disagree on this but if you'll come to think about it, many lives have been ruined because they're dying to be someone the society will accept. They're forgetting who they are just to be liked by many. They're killing themselves just to be someone the society will look up to.

Life is short. Be what you want to be. Do what your heart tells you to do. Cherish everything that you have. After all, the society won't be there to be your crying shoulder when everything falls under your feet. And no matter how hard you try to impress them, they'll just see your imperfections. Never let them define you as a woman nor let them set standards for you. It's your life. Live it the way your heart will not regret anything when you're about to die.