Every Brokenhearted Women Should Know

Break-ups are like lightning in the middle of a dreadful weather. You can’t predict where the lightning would strike. Most of us who are victims of the-one-who-are-left-behind in the story are the ones who have difficult times. They say we should move on but nobody knows how hard it is to go on with our lives but a new and different path to take. We used to have a pair of butterfly wings but the other one got broken so suddenly.

Love is so close to the truth. But some say it’s not actually called “the truth” because it had been a lie all along. So therefore, we actually believed in a lie. When we are in the middle of a strong relationship, we often believed that this is it! He is destined for me and we are going to be together forever. But in the end, it was only a glimpse of our happiness. It made us believed that we are secured because we won’t be like other mistaken couples we know. But who knew that one day everything will change. Your beliefs, your future, your love were all just in a short notice.

In order to respond to our emotional needs and to move on, we have to feel the pain. Go get some glasses and throw them on the wall and watch how it breaks into pieces. Or get your old stuffs given to you and rip them apart, crumple it, or throw them away where you can no longer see them. Or curse all the places you’ve been together where you shared happy memories in it and oath to never visit the place again. And the hardest part, cry a lot every night because forcing it or pretending you’re okay will hurt you even more especially if you store your crying hormones in your throat.

We seek advice to people but all we wanted was to share our dreadful stories to other people just to ease the pain. But more of your memories will creep into our minds and we’ll even cry a lot while reminiscing it. No matter how strong advices you get from people who also experienced and survived a horrible break up, the best advice will always come from us. Admit it, we have different approaches to our heartbreaks no matter how stupid it is. But it’s actually a cure to us: responding to our own pain.

No matter the pain, no matter what hurtful things they said to us, the hardest part will always be the Acceptance Stage. Sure, you might be friends right now and act as if nothing happened between the two of you, but you’ll only hurt yourself even more. You’re being hopeful and you’re forgetting the fact that you’re just friends, nothing more nothing less.

Moving on is not an easy job. Sometimes it takes time. So what! Take your time to heal. The longer you can’t seem to move on means that you really fall in love and not just some childish relationship. You tend to become mature and smart about it. And people will admire you for that, which means they knew how you were taking your relationship seriously. Here’s an important tip: NEVER SEEK FOR REVENGE. Sure, he fooled you once, twice, all the time, which means he’s a jerk. If one day, he’ll knock on your door again, be nice. Follow your heart. It’s not like you’ve never committed a mistake in your past relationship, right?

If right now, you’re still mourning to your poor heart, always be thankful that your past relationship happened. You couldn’t be strong and wise if it wasn’t for your ex. Sometimes we have to experience this, because love can only be perfected through pain.