Mama!

It’s not easy being a single mom, you get people questioning your every move but being a single mother made me stronger than ever before! Giving up is not an option when you have someone calling you mama, I’m a young mother and I wouldn’t change it for the world.

I was 20 when I found out I was carrying my precious one but that news was not great news to me since I wasn’t even married the time I conceived. I was in a live-in relationship and to make things worse me and the father of my baby broke up a week before I found out I was carrying. I was upset but I do have a mother who I should say is the absolute best, my first option was an abortion as I was just 20 but as advised by the doctors an abortion would be harmful to me. I had absolutely no idea how I was going to bring up a baby but as the chaos started to settle down my mother came up to me and told me – you laid your bed, you lie on it. That was a little harsh, however; she told me that I was an independent woman and did not need a man’s support to look after my child. She was my strength throughout my pregnancy.

Walking into office everyday with everyone’s eyes on me was a nightmare but I knew why people were staring, I was 20, unmarried and pregnant. Did I care – No! People were not used to the idea of seeing a girl who’s not married pregnant, I heard people gossip but my only focus was the baby I was carrying. I had to provide for the baby and no matter what people spoke I took nothing to heed, it was my life and no matter what people did to put me down I knew I can only fall if I let myself too.

I did get to telling the father of my baby that I’m carrying and his expression was priceless as he already dating someone else. A two and a half-year relationship did not matter to him that much because as soon as we broke up he was in another woman’s arms but my focus was my child so I had to tell him, I’m not going to get to the details on how I told the father of my baby that I was pregnant – that requires another article all together. This article is about my baby – the reason to me becoming the strong woman who I am today.

I gave birth to a strong and healthy 6-pound baby girl, her first cry when the doctor pulled her out of my stomach still resounds in my mind. She was so tiny and beautiful and she was mine, the only thought that came to my mind delivering her no matter what might come my way I will protect her with my life. The feeling is so surreal and changed me in the best way possible. If you’re a single mother reading this know that your strength is admired and you’re not alone. You’re not raising your child alone as you have God – who is always by your side. Make God your strength and ask him to help you carry your burdens and nothing will be impossible. Co-Parent with God.

Some might look at me and feel sad but little do they know that I’m stronger and happier than ever before, I’d rather be a single mom than to show my child an unhappy marriage. I’ve seen so many single mother’s in my lifetime but little did I know that I would become one but those single mothers were an inspiration to me – confident, independent, kind, patient and loving. I was brought up by one – my mother, a lady with a backbone made of steel and a heart made of gold. She’s my greatest inspiration, bringing up three children single handily is no joke but she did and she never complained. I hope I can be as strong as my mother someday and I pray every day that God gives me the strength to be strong and confident.

Don’t be hard on yourself, no one is perfect, we are giving it all we have and if you give it all you got nothing else matters. Do not give up. When care is pressing you down a bit, rest if you must but don’t you quit. The very fact that you worry about being a great mother means that you already are one. Don’t give up though the pace seems slow – you will succeed with another blow. Success is failure turned inside out, the silver tint of the clouds of doubt and you never can tell how close you are it may be near when it seems so far; So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit – It’s when things seem worst that you must not quit. To every man out there dating a single mother – she’s not going to gamble her child’s happiness on just any man so by dating you, she’s paying you a compliment.

I look back on my life and I know I’m blessed. I promised myself better and I’m never looking back.