Self Discovery

Why is it that a moment of self discovery requires something extreme to happen with you? 

Or

Can it happen when we are constant in our lives? 

Or

Can a person actually make you discover yourself?

I know what you will probably be thinking. It is all a waste of time to get to know oneself. "I know what makes me happy and that is coding. I will keep on coding and world around me will stay this constant always".

I pity the fool who thinks like that. I have seen many people of my age, who have already decided what their life will be after 20 or 30 years. And they don't know a single thing about themselves. You can never make them realize what's wrong with them. I once tried asking some psychology based questions to one of my best friend, who I am sure will probably not read this. For example; what you'll do in this or that situation. I knew that those situations may or may not be true in future, but it was helping me to get to know him better. And he reacted quite funny. He was angry as hell, and damn irritated. What more can I say now. Was it because IITians tend to be short tempered? Or because it was making him frustrated, putting himself in those situations which were testing him. That too just imagining himself in those moments. He insulted my thought process and told me that I am a dark person by heart. That didn't change my perspective of him or anything, I kept on being his best friend. 

But the conclusion I can make with it, is that no one wants to know their deeper, darker secrets. No one wants to know now what they'll do, if they are trapped in a desert and see a man dying. Either you can save him by giving your water, or let him die which will help you, as you can cook him afterwards! 

You see, situations can change in the blink of an eye. One day you're here sipping a cup of coffee and the next moment the roof just falls on you!! What really matters is that you know yourself. If not now, then be it at an instant of some extreme happening with you.

You can go on living that same life with those same interests, but of course you know that you will be tested with some hardships at some point in this life. How you react and how you keep on holding your head up high is what matters. If you know yourself and how you are inside, that extreme might not affect you in a way it would have when you were ignorant of your true self. 

You can start now. Go on, try new things and try to keep yourself in other person's shoes. Or watch a sad movie. This way you unlock a new layer of yours. And a new respect will grow in you, towards this life. As many bad things could have happened with you, which is not happening now. Trust me you'll turn out to be happy after a self discovery of yours.

I can't change a person's mindset. But at least whenever I can, I try to make him know himself. So that when you're wondering what have you done in order to save yourself and then not finding an appropriate justification inside you. You'll probably end up regretting that action. And believe me, regret is something so heavy, which can weigh you down even in your happiest moments.